Proverbs 7 gives a clear description of the “strange woman,” and has been preached and taught for generations to warn men and women alike of her dangers. Surely in the sensual day we live in, our ladies need to be reminded to avoid any characteristic that would identify them with this wicked woman, and our men must be warned to stay away from this woman whose house is, “the way to hell.”
Sadly, though, the key to the chapter is likely found in verses 19 and 20. “For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey; he hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.” Could this “absentee husband” be the root cause of this woman’s wandering heart? I believe it is! He hasn’t had to go away to find work in order to provide for his family; he left with a bag of money. He has very likely made the mistake many men have made. That is, once he won the heart of this lady and married her, he then allowed his heart to move on to other conquests. There is apparently an adventurous, untamed spirit inside of “Mr. Goodman!” She very possibly possessed this same, wild-at-heart, free-spirited type of personality. Maybe that is what initially attracted them to each other. Now, it seems he wants to continue living this adventurous life while she stays at home; prim, proper, and domesticated!
I Peter 3:7 instructs husbands to dwell with their wives, “according to knowledge.” The goodman of the house in Proverbs chapter 7 did NOT do this! While she is (as we all are) responsible for her reprehensible behavior, there is more to this story than meets the eye in a brief reading of the chapter. May God help us as men to love our wife as Christ loved the church. Let’s learn them, and dwell with them, “according to knowledge.” The Christian home is under constant Satanic attack, and we have to vigilant with the “Sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God,” if we are going to withstand in this evil day.